About two years ago I was in a bad way. I was overworking, I was living in a relationship that had badly deteriorated, and I was generally not very pleasant to be around. My zeal for life had died down to a flicker that I preciously guarded each day. I was not having any fun and was becoming more socially isolated. So, what did I do? I booked a trip to Mexico to reconnect with my brother, and, more importantly, to reconnect with myself. While on that trip I discovered the meaning of the old Confucian saying, "no matter where you go, there you are."